Assignment week 2
ASSIGNMENT WEEK 2 1
Humanity is known for its social nature.Therefore, human beings will find it hard to survive in solitudescenarios. Such human beings are bound to interact with others basedon social connections and other revenant aspects that they relate towhen making worthwhile connections. Socialization emerges from humaninterpersonal interactions, which may occur at many levels[ CITATION Bor14 l 1033 ].Socialization allows humanity to understand rules of socialexpectations while at the same time allow people to interactwith others while creating meaningful relationships with them. Inthis paper, I will consider lessons derived from an interview with mygrandmother as the agent of socialization, their role as the saidagent and even pinpoint how the experienced affected and changed mysocialization life and related values.
A family’s role is seen as crucial social inthe aspect of socialization[ CITATION Bal14 l 1033 ].I recently talked to my grandmother. She is one of the eldest personsliving in our home area meaning that shehas a lot of experience in life thus viable as a source ofinformation. She has seen the wave of civilization eroding thetraditional practices in the home region as most people try to catchup with digitization. My mother passed away while I was still youngso my grandmother took up the responsibility of taking care of meuntil I grew up to become the person I am today. This means that Igrew a close relationship with my grandmother and saw her as one ofmy parents and a close acquaintance.
According to her, before the disintegration ofthe traditional social structures, she used to be a village elder.She was also a part of village committee whose primary objective wasto maintain law and order while at the same time ensuring that andensure that traditions were followed to the core. She reminded me ofhow as a young person I was irresponsible, arrogant andill-disciplined, “you were very irresponsible and arrogant, if Idid not take the measures I did, I am not sure of the person youmight have become." From my perspective, I thought that she washarsh, but now I finally understood her actions. I am not the onlyone who thought that she was strict since other people from my reignthought so too. During her, her time women were barely allowed inleadership, positions she had to be strong and strict to show peoplethat she was serious. She never capitulated or procrastinated, as sheknew the consequences of a slight misstep in those eras would begrave, "I had to be tough otherwise I would be pushed aroundthus losing my leadership status and effectiveness." When onthe wrong side, the perpetrators were in fear of knowledge that thepunishment would be severe, and this served the purpose of shaping upthe society, she knew that people looked upon her for inspirationthus avoided faltering at all costs. She was the embodiment of a trueleader, and this made people respect and trust her as their leader.
Considering that she also took the motheringrole in taking care of me, one can understand that the burden was notlight. Despite being preoccupied with leadership activities, shenever allowed getting off track. She merciless punished me in thecase of any wrongdoing especially if she had warned me against it. She also fought with my arrogant attitude and irresponsible behaviorv by using her punitive techniques. I feared her punishment more thananything else did, and this prompted me to change. In time, I learnedhow to abide by her rules, and the beatings ceased. I remember howshe taught me to share the little I had with others, showed me how torelate with strangers, and even purposely ‘forced’ me to become areligious believer. She taught me acceptable and unacceptablebehaviors, but she did this via the use of her whip, which she hadbecome fond of using unit I stopped misbehaving.
After this interview, I finally came tounderstand her. I understood why she used to punish me mercilesslyall those years back. She knew that if I grew up with those badtraits, it would become and influence to the society and might sufferfor my behaviors. She knew that when a person grows up, it becomesimpossible to mold their behaviors, as the only stage whereby this ispossible is when one is young. This is mostly so since the individualis growing up, their mind is still young and fresh, so it will adaptto change and get used to them easily[ CITATION Ale14 l 1033 ].After all, the scholars indicated that teaching old dog new trickscould be impossible. Her lack of procrastination has taught me thatif I want to do something, then the only right time is now since I amnot sure whether I will get such a timeagain. By understanding that her ‘punishment` was rather correctivemeasures, I learned that if I see a problem needing a fix, I do nothave to wait for others to do it as I can do this since can also playthe role of an agent of socialization.
To sum up, we can note that there are manyagents of socialization. The role that these agents play will dependon their social location and statues. A family is one if the crucialagents of socialization. This is mostly so since it is the first formof social life that a newborn child experiences before he/she startsto learn to interact with other people. As seen, in this context, mygrandmother represents an agent of social change. Her leadershiptraits play a big role in effecting these changes. My interview withher proved to be a turning point, as I will integrate some of hercore values in my life for self-improvement and enhancing myrelationship with others.
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